Another year has come and gone. I recently went through a VERY hard goodbye in life and it brought back my blog and how important it is to continue to write my story and stay on top of my depression. I find that writing this is SO VERY therapeutic for me.
On Friday August 12, 2022 @ 2PM we lost our mom (Birth mom).
Obituary Below:
Our Dear Mother, Nancy Ann Floyd, Passed away surrounded by her children on Friday, August 12th, 2022 at the age of 59 after a long battle with COPD and many other health-related problems.
She was born on July 27, 1963, in Inglewood, California to Donna Myrel Poteet Spencer, and Craig Floyd. She leaves behind Her Mother (Donna) her Sister (Terry Burgess) her brother (Randy Floyd) her children (Danielle Hamilton), (Christopher Shipe), (Raquel Hannig), (Jordan Atherley), and (Jesse Spencer). She also leaves behind 14 grandchildren and 7 great-grandchildren. She is Preceded in death by her Father (Craig Floyd), her brother (Donnie Maxwell), and her grandmother and grandfather (Edna & William McCombs).
Nancy loved her siblings and other loved ones more than they will ever know! Nancy had a great love for tall beautiful Palm trees and the ocean. She had 3 cats at home that were her life and spoiled them very much! She lived each day to see her children and grandchildren smile and get along!
The family would like to express gratitude to Nancy’s Case Manager at IHC for helping to navigate her care through Nancy’s many medical issues throughout the years!
I didnt think this day would ever really come because of how many times over the last 10 years my mom has bounced back. We all thought she’d live forever. She definitely had more than 9 lives.
Now…. I’m grateful she is at peace, but what I would give to hear her tell me one last time“Raquel… be nice to your brother.” Aka… Jesse.
I liked to tell mom that her ugly child was coming over or the ugly child is on the phone and Jesse Would always pipe in and tell her that hes the favorite and best looking… She would always laugh and tell us both be nice to each other.
The day mom passed it started down pouring rain, and today as it was starting to rain I decided to look up the meaning of rain after death and I found this,
Victorians believed if it rained after there had been a death, the rain signified a cleansing of the soul of the deceased. The arrival of the rain meant the soul was moving on to the next life, since in nature rain always brings new plant life and growth.
Nicknames we had for mom were….
Grammy pants
Moooma
When she was being grumpy and stubborn Danielle and Jesse liked to call her by her name Nancy.
Things my mom loved were…..her love for palm trees. I couldn’t go to St. George, Florida or California without mom saying send me a picture of a palm tree. I can say I never let her down. She asked for 1 and I sent 10. I came home from Florida and surprised her with a baby palm tree and the look on her face was priceless. I’m pretty sure I earned the favorite child title with that one. Sorry Jess.
Mom would always tell me how her ex husbands would bring home animals without asking and she’d get stuck caring for them but later they became her best friends. Her most recent surprise fir babies were her 2 birds Tiko and Pablo and her 3 cats Simba, Callie and Bitz. Those 3 cats be came her entire world. The last 4 months In And out of the hospital there wasn’t a phone call or conversation that she wasn’t asking about her cats. Making sure they were getting fed and loved. I’d tell her yes and she never believed me because she’d ask Danielle to go down and double check.
She also had a love for Brooks and Dunn. I remember growing up watching her dance in the mirror while putting on makeup and jamming out to it. Her dance moves weren’t the greatest but she made them look good.
Something some may not know about my mom is her love for Pitbull. He is a Mexican R&B artist that stole her heart many years ago.
The last 8 months living at home and helping Danielle and Andy take care of mom we couldn’t get her to eat much other than her pies, coffee and Diet Coke.
Now mom was nuts when it came to her coffee creamer. It HAD to be white chocolate raspberry creamer and when she would send you to the store for it and you’d come back saying they didn’t have it she’d Ask you what Walmart you went to specifically because the only one you can find it at is the Walmart between Pleasant Grove and American Fork and if they didn’t have it you clearly didn’t look hard enough and it was the end of the world.
You’d ask her what she wanted to eat and she’d tell you a cherry pie. I truly believe that’s all she ate the last 8 months.
And if you didn’t know about the Diet Coke addiction… it was real for my mom. Didn’t matter day or night that women wanted a cold Diet Coke. I’m almost 100% positive that her last fluid she had was her Diet Coke.
Along with the diet Coke addiction was her Kleenex addiction. She could clean out a box of Kleenex tissues in 24 hours.
Some things I’ve found that I’ve gotten from my mom are…
1. The DARK circles under my eyes that make it look like I’ve been on a binger for days….
2. The Nancy face. For those that don’t know what that is…. Well when she would focus or sleep her mouth dropped into a frowny face, and I used to think what the hell.. why does she do that.
3. The bones. Her and grandma are twisting and they’ve shared the love with me. My poor husband.
Grandkids. My momma loved every single one of her grand babies. She took so much pride in her beautiful and handsome grandchildren.
She was the grandma that would take a painting from her grandson and frame it and hang it even if it was just scribbles.
She has a special relationship with each child differently.
I loved watching her love my boys. When she first met my oldest Jace she was in prison and the instant connection and love that she had for him was beautiful. He loved his grandma so much. They spent so much time together and he would go over and sleep over with her and I know how much she enjoyed those times.
I asked some of the grandkids to share with me a favorite memory of grandma.
Jaces was waking up early in the morning when grandma lived above us and doing dishes with her.
Lincoln was every time we went to see grandma she always had candy for me.
Jaymee was 7th birthday party. We had a pool party at uncle Shane’s and grandma attended and watched us swim.
Jaymee also expressed how she loved going to grandmas and seeing her birds Tiko and Pablo.
Tailors was Going to her house and seeing her and being with her just made my day!! I also loved going with all my cousins to her house and coloring or playing with toys!!- Taylor
Her friend Terry Calder wanted me to say for him since he couldn’t be here
“Nancy, was a good friend to me, through the hard times and the good times, she was always there for me. And I loved her like a sister. I will miss her terribly. I love you Nancy. “
The last 8 months living in a room next to my mom I heard her talk a lot about her momma and her siblings.
She would reminisce on the good old days and say oh I love my sister. Or my brothers were assholes growing up but I sure do love them. And she always bragged about how handsome her brothers were.
She’d also tell me on multiple occasions how Beautiful her mama is and how I am so lucky to have beautiful women to look up to and grow from.
She loved each of her family members no matter what was going on between everybody. She would cry in hopes that we would all be able to be together again with out anger. Well mom idk about anger but you got us all together….
Melissa had pointed out some of moms posts On Facebook over the years that I wanted to share.
“Merry xmas to my five beautiful children i thank you all and love you all so much thank you and keep making your lifes bigger and better. You all beat the odds and been through hell to get there.Reach for the stars all of you its your turn to shine. And boy do you all shine. Dont stop love mom”
“i just want my daughter to know
i love her you can do it danielle.”
“Happy birthday to my beautiful
son Shane I love you keep chasing
your dreams mom”
“just wanted to tell all my kids how proud of them i am. all of tou make me so so so happy thanks i love you all. mom”
“WELL ITS MY YOUNGEST SONS BDAY TODAY HE IS THE BIG 20 AND DOING SO SO GOOD JESSE I WISH ALL YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE AND I LOVE YOU YOU WILL ALWAYS BE MY BABY…LOVE MOM” (maybe you are the favorite)?
“just want to say thank you to all my kids for steping up and caring for family members. A little love goes a long.”
“just wanted to say i love you Kel
and miss you and that little guy
give him kisses from gramdma.
please.”
I may be 32 but I still need my mom. I still need those magical back tickles and just her presence when I’ve had a hard day. I’m not ready to let her go.
I’ll end with this quote and a song.
The quote reads:
YOUR MOM IS YOUR
MOM.
Nobody can replace
her..
Nobody should
replace her..
Nobody can
do half the things she does,
or has done, for you..
Nobody can compare to
her... Only God can love you
more than she does... She's
only one person... But she's the person that matters the most...
I love you mom. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life and I pray to god I can learn to be strong like you were.
Thank you for loving me and being my momma.
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